The more plans I make for this baby, the more I realize I really do have a touch of that hippie mom in me. Remember when I mentioned her several weeks back? I felt bad for making the comment, even in jest, because I didn’t want to unintentionally offend anyone. But I think we all have basic ideas of what this hippie mom looks like and how her parenting style differs from the stereotypical suburban mom’s. Since it’s kind of important in my point of the post, here are a few of the hippie mom’s stereotypical qualities, at least in my mind:
- adamant about natural birth, to the point of using midwives, doulas, water births (at home, of course), and the like
- a breastfeeding activist, of course
- insists upon co-sleeping and family beds
- cloth diapers–disposable are bad for the environment
- make their own baby food, most likely all organic
- baby-wearing in some sort of sling
Have I forgotten any? When I look at my list, I realize that my own mother fits at least a few qualities of a hippie mom. She delivered four children without any drugs–not because she wanted a natural experience, though, but because drugs weren’t an option then. She used cloth diapers–because they were cheaper at the time. She made most of her own baby food–because Gerber’s wasn’t as readily available and was more expensive. And of course she breastfed, but she wasn’t a member of LLL or anything like that. My mom did all these things because they made more sense to her, not because she was trying to make a statement with her actions.
As time goes on, I find myself conforming more to the hippie mom than the suburban mom as well. I would love to have a completely natural birth. I’d even love to do it at home, but I know my previous complications will prevent that from ever happening. I will breastfeed again. I’m hoping the baby sling works out so that I can “wear” this baby. A part of me wishes I could make my own baby food, too, although I highly doubt that ever happens (ever eaten my cooking? don’t).
Again, though, while my actions make me feel like a hippie mom, I know in all truth that I don’t have the right attitude to fall under that hippie mom stereotype. In fact, I’m much more likely a suburban mom at heart, driving my kids around to soccer practice and Girl Scouts (ok…Boy Scouts) in my mini-van equipped with the DVD player. Just because I happen to breastfeed and own a baby sling will not change who I am at heart. And you know what’s sad? Despite how it sounds when I talk about this hippie mom, I almost wish I could be her. I’m much more critical of the stereotypical suburban mom who plans her C-section weeks in advance, buys the best and most advanced formula to feed baby, owns stock in Gerber’s and Pampers, never leaves her mini-van, and depends on the best in technology to care for her children. Even if that’s me.